Tacos, Tunes, and Island Time: What is a “best life”?

We hear it all the time, “live your best life”; but what exactly does that mean? 

I believe a “best life” means finding your sustainable happiness; and to be sustainable, the things that bring you happiness have to be affordable over time, have to be adaptable to changes in your physical/mental condition, and have to be things you can do on your own.

For my retirement plan to work optimally, I am choosing to work part-time for the first 5 years of retirement.  This will allow me to make the last “big purchases” like cars, renovations, and several trips of a lifetime. Budget is sustainable, therefore happiness is sustainable.

With a total knee replacement and various other musculoskeletal conditions, I am already experienced at adapting movement.  Capabilities can be adjusted for, therefore happiness is sustainable.

Activities with my husband such as cooking, gardening, traveling, dining, dancing, and “beaching it” are more joyful with him; but I can do these things on my own.  I was divorced and single in my late 30s/early 40s, so I know I can.  Having a partner is not required, therefore happiness is sustainable. 

A best life doesn’t mean having everything, it’s about having what you need and what makes you happy.

My best life is about having adventures (travel), eating well (tacos), being active (dance fitness), and chasing dreams (more on that later).

What does your sustainable happiness look like?

Game Changer

“So, so what?  I’m still a rock star.  I got my rock moves.” [“So What,” P!nk] 

Don’t play the game, change it.  So often as older adults we are presumed to be past our “best before” date, so much so that we believe it too; and that’s not okay because we are accepting the limitations imposed on us by others.

The phrase “so what” carries a punch, it’s not indifference, it’s a declaration of irrelevance.

Can’t run as fast, so what.  Can’t jump as high, so what.  Can’t remember shit, so what. No longer graceful, so what.  No longer wrinkle free, so what. 

I can’t wear heels any more, so what; I have a rainbow collection of sneakers and flipflops.  I can’t compete any more, so what; I can do it for joy. 

If we are lucky enough to live long enough to be a “senior,” we must be sassy and smart, because that’s how we change attitudes towards aging.  Young people should want to be us not the other way around. 

Live without filters, say “so what” a lot.  Get off the bench, change the game.